Y’all, I have been in such a funk over the last day or so. And do you want to know why?
It’s because rude people are sucking the life right out of me, or they’re at least sucking the fun right out of blogging for me.
This blog has been my happy place for many years now. I don’t think anyone — not even my husband or my family members — truly understands how much I thrive on creating things. And having a way to share these things with others — not only my successes, but also my failures, my trials, and the lessons I’ve learned along the way — is such an incredible experience for me that makes me love the whole process even more.
Fortunately, this happy and safe place continues to remain happy and safe for me, for the most part.
My A2D Facebook page is kind of an extension of this blog. It’s where I share my projects and posts, where I try to build community with people who have the same interests, or who want to learn more about DIYing, using power tools, decorating their homes on a budget, etc.
For some reason, my Facebook page has experienced a huge growth in numbers over the last month, with over 100,000 new folks joining just since December 23rd. And while I’m thrilled to have a larger audience, and I’ve “met” so many new, creative, awesome people, it also seems that this swift current has stirred up a great deal of bottom-feeding scum that have gotten caught in the current and found their way to my page…and to my blog.
At least five times a day, I find comments like these on my projects:
“That looks ridiculous!”
“That bathroom is ugly! It looked so much better before!”
“I’m sorry, but I just have to chime in here. I hate that table!”
“Sorry, but this just has to be said. That is UGLY!”
And then there are the ones who, while looking at pictures of MY house, say things like, “OMG! That (such-and-such) has GOT to go!!!!!!”
And the one that tops them all lately…the one who told me that she wouldn’t let me in her house (presumably to decorate) even if I did it for FREE. (And no, I wasn’t offering in the first place!!)
It’s not the fact that these people don’t like my projects or my decorating that bothers me. Frankly, I don’t care. It’s my house, and I’ll decorate it to my liking, regardless of what others think about it. And really, having a house that everyone likes isn’t really what this blog is about.
What bothers me about this is that I can’t bear the thought that this is how so many seemingly average, everyday people now behave in society. I can’t bear that this is becoming normal, accepted behavior.
I would never in my life dream of walking into an acquaintance’s home, pointing to something in her house, and saying, “Oh my gosh, that’s hideous!” Or, “Please, that thing has got to go!”
I mean, I honestly cannot wrap my head around this behavior. And just like I would never do that to someone face-to-face (because thankfully, my mom taught me better manners than that), I would also never dream of doing that to someone online. Because those people are still human, they still have feelings, and they’re still deserving of my respect, whether or not I like their projects, their decor, or their home.
And really, why would I even bother? It’s not my house, and I acknowledge that everyone has different styles and different tastes. I love that about decorating! Why would I think that everyone else’s houses need to be decorated to my liking?
I hate that we’ve sunk this low as a society.
And what I hate more is that when I say something to these degenerates about their rudeness, they always retort with something like, “Well, if you don’t want criticism, then you shouldn’t be posting stuff online!”
Really? That’s like me telling the acquaintance in the example above, after she expresses shock over my lack of manners, that if she doesn’t want criticism then she shouldn’t invite people into her home. That’s ridiculous.
And I guess I’ve always believed that intelligent adults can always find a way to express their opinions in a civilized, tactful manner. I have people leave comments quite frequently expressing their dislike over a certain aspect of a project — a color choice, a fabric selection, etc. — and offering suggestions on how to improve it, and they do so in a tactful manner. Those civilized and tactful critiques and suggestions will always be welcome on my blog and my Facebook page. I learn a lot from people who behave like civilized adults, and possess the intelligence to express their opinions in a tactful way. In fact, I changed my console table design based on one such tactful critique, and I love it so much more now because of it!
I could surround myself with intelligent, tactful people all day long, even if they don’t like my house, my decorating, or my projects, and still be perfectly happy and content.
But those other people? They possess the tact and intelligence of poo-flinging monkeys, and I’m getting so tired of being pelted by poo every time I go to my Facebook page.
And mostly, I’m distressed that we as a society seem to be sliding backwards, towards a society where poo-flinging monkeys are becoming so commonplace, and will probably eventually become the norm as they breed more and more little baby poo-flingers who learn their behavior from their parents and grow up to act even worse than their parents.
I could say so much more on this topic, but I won’t. It has consumed my mind over the last couple of days.
But know this. If I ever stop blogging, it’ll be because I’ve been pelted by poo one too many times. I wish these people would go back to the zoo where they belong.
Thanks for letting me vent. Happier posts coming. I’ll be finishing my console table today, and sharing it with y’all tomorrow.