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Conflicted and Confused

Good morning, friends! I don’t have a great DIY project for you today, or a roundup of inspiring ideas. I don’t even have anything witty or entertaining to share. Today, I just have my thoughts to offer you.

I’m 38 years old. (Did you know that about me?) Yep, 38. And yet I still find myself wondering what I want to do with my life when I grow up. I feel restless…conflicted…and confused. Is this normal? Don’t most people have things figured out at my age? What the heck is wrong with me?!

Perhaps it’s because there are so many things I want to do, and yet I find roadblocks everywhere I look. Am I creating those roadblocks in my own mind? Am I making excuses?

I’ve got this great blog that’s like my baby. I love it, I nurture it, and I get so excited when I see it grow. I have such dreams and goals for my blog…so many great ideas and projects I’d love to share. And yet, I find myself working much longer hours now than I ever have in my life, and yet making less money now than I did right out of college. Do I just not know how to do this whole blogging thing correctly? How do other bloggers with blogs similar in size to mine seemingly have these full, rich lives filled with family, free time, vacations, etc., while seemingly making plenty of cash to afford a few luxuries here and there?! Clearly I’m doing something wrong here.

I felt like I was really starting to click with my blogging schedule. I was really enjoying it, loving working on projects, and really loving featuring other bloggers’ projects on Thursday and Friday of each week. Clicking along and loving it, that is…

…until I got an email.

One email.

That’s all it took to completely take the wind out of my sails.

What is it with us bloggers? Why is it that we can get loads and loads of positive, encouraging comments, but then it just takes one negative comment to completely ruin our entire day? Why is it that I can have an inbox filled with emails from happy readers who are thrilled with my blog, love my projects, and just wanted to write to say “thank you”, and yet all it takes to completely derail me is one email from a reader telling me that she used to love my blog, but now, not so much.

Seriously, what is that about? I know I’m not the only blogger who gets totally bent out of shape by the negative even though it’s only one drop in the sea positive, encouraging feedback. But why? It’s frustrating, and I hate that about myself, and I don’t want to be like that…but I am.

This reader said that she used to love my blog, and she comes to my blog to see my projects, but she no longer enjoys it because I feature too many projects from other bloggers. She wants to see more original projects from me.

Seriously. I wanted to cry. And I probably did. My first thought was that I’ve already reduced the number of hours I sleep every night from eight to about six-and-a-half, and I’ve given up almost all of my free time (not just to work on stuff for my blog, but also in our pursuit of health, and going from the convenience of eating fast food for every single meal, to now preparing three meals a day at home for us–and I’m not talking about sandwiches and chips here–plus having to care for a wheelchair-bound husband with MS). So perhaps if I give up sleeping, eating, and that one hour per day of down time that I allow myself to watch a show, I can have time to do finish more projects for my blog. Maybe.

And welcome to the pity party that I’ve been throwing for myself for the last few days.

I know. It’s not pretty.

The irony? I received that email last week on the very day that I posted the most popular DIY project that I’ve ever posted on my blog. And I’ve been in a funk ever since, and have completely lost all motivation to work on more projects.

I’m not really sure where to go from here with these ramblings.

Just wanted you to know where I am right now. Some days I want to quit. I want to sell my blog. I want to crawl into a hole and be left alone.

But I won’t. Tomorrow is a new day.



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102 Comments

  • Reply To This Comment ↓
    Ashley
    April 18, 2012 at 10:16 am

    That person sucks. Plain and simple.

    There are some blogs that I have stopped enjoying. Do I tell them? HECK NO. It’s their decision to take their blog in the direction that they’re taking it, and I can choose to unsubscribe. I don’t need to make the blogger feel bad about themselves.

    I think the issue is that people view blog posts as a commodity, a product. The blog as a company, the blogger as a customer service representative. While those are true in a sense, the product is also being provided to the consumer free of charge. Who complains about free products? Lame and selfish people, that’s who.

    Keep your head up. I enjoy your blog immensely, and I love these personal posts that you pop in here in there (especially the ones that spark debate, like those about Pinterest!).

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    Teri Spurgeon (Decor8N with Teri)
    April 18, 2012 at 10:17 am

    Kristi, that one person may have been having a bad day OR have nothing else to do! I am in direct sales and get my feelings hurt sometimes, but then the next person can be a joy. Sounds to me like you have your hands pretty full at home, and don’t let this one person get you down! Some of us get tired of multi-tasking all the time and need to take the time to smell the roses and count our Blessings. I hope your day gets better~ as for me I am going to go work out and try to get some energy!! Have a Blessed Day and keep your chin up, you have a great blog!

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    Brooke
    April 18, 2012 at 10:29 am

    Ugh kristi I’m so sorry , I know exactly how you feel well you know what happened to me … It was kinda the same thing … Your blog rocks you are my “big” blogger I love your blog it truly inspires me. I’m not really sure what others secrets are I wonder this all the time how do they make it looks so easy .

    Hugs girly

    Brooke

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    KC
    April 18, 2012 at 10:35 am

    I don’t blame you for feeling that way. Successful bloggers must have to have really thick skin and figure out how to NOT take things personally. That would be very difficult. I’m not a blogger, but I also find myself getting a bit envious of those who seem to have really deep pockets. Hiring jobs out – some even have a paid handyman. I’d also love to have a husband who was extremely talented and could help me. After working full time, DIY is not his idea of a fun time! So I sit behind my computer reading about what everyone else is doing and getting jealous 🙂 But, you have a great blog. I admire what you & your husband are doing, so keep up the great work!

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    slipcovers by shelley
    April 18, 2012 at 10:35 am

    You are doing great….and really to post as much as you do is great with great content and not just fluff. Shake it off and Let it go….Keep up the hard work!

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    Jean
    April 18, 2012 at 10:38 am

    Kristi, I know more about what you deal with on a day-to-day basis than most people do. I have watched you through the past few years as your life has become more and more difficult. I have been amazed at how well you handle all the stress, and yet you keep right on going. Your complete devotion to Matt is something we could all learn from. I will always remember the time when I found you in the garage quietly crying your heart out. But then less than 30 minutes later you were back inside helping Matt and acting cheerful, building him up. You are an amazing person, Kristi. There are some people in this world who feel it is up to them to keep everyone else in line. I have a feeling that the person who sent that email would not last half a day in your shoes. I know it hurts to get something like that, but I also know you well enough to know that you will bounce back. If anyone ever needed a vacation, it is you. I hope that will happen some day soon. I love you, Kristi.
    Mom

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    Jessica @ Mom 4 Real
    April 18, 2012 at 10:39 am

    First of all…don’t ever let anyone tell you what your blog content should be! It’s your blog, if they want to blog about a certain thing, then they should do so themselves! I thoroughly enjoy your blog, and love a blog that doesn’t just do one thing! I am almost 37, and I still struggle with what I really want to do with my life. My blog is slowly helping me with that. Because of the positive encouragement from my blog, I am renting a space in a shop to sell some of my creations. It will come to you when the time is right. That time is not always when you think it should be. It sounds like you have your hands full right now, so maybe you should just give yourself a little slack. Keep your blog the way it is…don’t give someone else the power to change your own life!

    Love and hugs!

    Jessica

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    Jessica
    April 18, 2012 at 10:41 am

    I feel your pain friend! Just know that you are not alone and that I still absolutely adore your blog!

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    Kelly @ Eclectically Vintage
    April 18, 2012 at 10:45 am

    Kristi,
    I’m 43 and still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up!!

    I got a really mean comment on one of my posts (she said it was the stupidest thing she ever saw) – of course, when I went to comment back, that email wasn’t even real! Of course, I was shocked that someone would actually take the time to be so mean – but then I figured she’s probably the female unibomber living in the woods with no friends!!

    So, don’t let it get you down. It’s your blog – to do what you wish. If people don’t like it, they can go away quietly or start their own blog doing their own projects that other people can critique!

    I really like your features! Are we supposed to have 7 days worth of original projects? Talk about not having a life!

    Now, go sit outside by your new raised garden beds, kick up your feet and relax!
    Kelly

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    Deb Donner
    April 18, 2012 at 10:48 am

    Oh Kristi,
    When we try to please other humans, we will always be let down. Focus on Jesus and the wonderful things He has in store for you and Matt!! Can’t go wrong there, my friend! Philippians 4:6-9!!

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    Jan S.
    April 18, 2012 at 11:07 am

    Kristi, all I can say is 1) you are human and your response to the negative reader is quite natural, 2) you absolutley cannot let that 1 negative comment deflate you. We are our own worst critic at times, but look at all the people who wait with baited breath each day to read your blog, see what new project you have started, and/or to read about someone else’s crafty concoction. That would actually be ME! I personally do not have the time to follow the 100’s of blogs I wish I could….so I pick and choose actually KNOWING you all link together and will repost others when you see something fabulous that you want to share. That’s flattery my friend and also confidance along with SHARING!!! Your blog is fantastic….I only wish you could come to my house and help me with some projects. Hugs to you Krisit, hang in there girlie cuz u r fantastic!!!!!!

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    Nyssa
    April 18, 2012 at 11:08 am

    Well, you gained at least one new fan today and I am sure probably more. : ) When people don’t want you to grow or change, that reflects on them, not on you. Also, it sounds like it was a compliment of sorts… she is saying (in too many words) that YOUR projects are GREAT. When it comes to critique- “take what you like and leave the rest”- perhaps easier said than done, I know. But I tip my hat to you. My best friend is currently experiencing a terrible bout with MS, we are hoping treatments will get her symptoms under control.

    Virtual hug from a stranger. XO. Nyssa

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    Sarah
    April 18, 2012 at 11:27 am

    Aw, that made me sad that the one comment gave you doubts about your content because your blog is my absolute favorite blog, and I read a lot of blogs. I know that when you do a project yourself, it’s going to be creative and like nothing I see anywhere else. Plastic spoons? Egg crate flowers? Please don’t lose sleep to start adding projects–we want you to stay healthy, and your creativity probably shines best without volume pressure. And I like your other posts too–you’re fostering the community. So let us know what we can do to help you feel satisfied with your blog. Gonna go click around some links in case that helps 🙂

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    Aprile
    April 18, 2012 at 11:29 am

    THIS world is not your home, my friend. If it helps, I have seen an INCREDIBLE amount of growth in you (and Matt) in the past year. Mourning what we feel is the loss of certain things is real, real and heartfelt. But you’re not losing things, you are simply trading. And no matter how much you love him, even caretakers need breaks. It’s easy for people like us to see that one negative comment and let it stab us in the heart. Reality is you have thousands of readers who enjoy your blog . And remember this from a spiritual standpoint…..put up your shield of faith and let not those arrows penetrate. We all have times we need to vent and it means a lot that you feel comfortable enough to do it here. It shows that you are a “real” person and it encourages us all. Keep up the good fight and follow where the spirit leads you. You are a huge inspiration to me! Hugs

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    Michelle
    April 18, 2012 at 11:31 am

    Kristi-
    I find your blog inspiring. In fact, many days I’ve been thinking about how to do a project and then there it is on your blog. Are you in my mind?
    I was raised to care what other people think and have been slowly working to undo that training! (I’m 45) It serves me well in my career, but can be soul crushing in my personal life. I call those draining negative people karmic vampires. They are everywhere and want to take away your light. Believe me it says more about them than you. There is a line in a Taylor Swift song (blame my 10-year-old-niece) that says it all, “people throw rocks at things that shine.’
    So, have your pity party of one. I have them often. in fact, I announce them to my husband to let him know the state of my mind at the moment. He declines my invitation every time. He won’t even join me in The Bitter Barn when I go.
    I know it doesn’t feel like it, but a healthy perspective will return. Hopefully, all the comments will help. Just so you know, I RARELY comment on my favorite blogs, but I felt this required action.
    Now get back to creating! Our 1920s bungalow, new to us, needs your inspiration because I’m stuck right now.

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    Tracy
    April 18, 2012 at 11:37 am

    First of all, OF COURSE it’s normal; in fact, it’s awesome that you can re-invent yourself throughout your lifetime! If this isn’t want you want to do forever, then so be it.
    And here’s another perspective on your decision to feature other projects – I love finding out about other blogs and bloggers I can follow or even just browse through their projects, PLUS, how great are you to send traffic their way? You’ve done it for me, and it makes a HUGE difference to smaller, new blogs.
    Some people are just stinky. You do your life the way you need/want – those that ‘get it’ will stick around.
    Sending you hugs because I think you’re awesome.
    Tracy

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    Debi
    April 18, 2012 at 11:40 am

    Sending you a longhardhug… and a paraphrased suggestion from actress Meg Ryan: Don’t take “good reviews” OR the “bad reviews” as gospel-truth. They’re simply opinions. And, another bit of advice from some author whose name I can’t remember at the moment: 1) Show up; 2) Do your best work; 3) Let go of the results.

    I know, I know: easier said than done, but good stuff to keep in the back (or front) of your mind, I think.

    Be gentle with yourself…

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    Linda @ Fingers in the Dirt
    April 18, 2012 at 11:48 am

    Hi Kristi,
    There is something new, an ugly creature, that has come out of from under the bed or up from the basement since the advent of public communication via blogs and social media. People who would never say the things they write to your face, feel like it’s almost a badge of honor to be vindictive and mean via a post. One sports blogger, who was just reamed by a person who replied to his blog about a sporting event, decided to look up the person who write the hateful comment and found out that it was a teenage boy from a very nice family. His parents were horrified and he was very apologetic when confronted in person (with just a simple question “why were you so mean?”) The kid’s answer was that it was just the thing to do. I guess it’s like road rage.
    We will never know, when we put ourselves out there in public blogs, when we are going to hit a sore spot for someone who is not able to follow their dream and doesn’t have a good enough sensitivity towards others to keep a lid on their mean thoughts. But, it’s almost impossible to not take their rants personally. Even if it’s just one rant out of a thousand good comments.
    As far as reinventing yourself, we do this all through life because it’s want makes us happy, interesting human beings. I’m 63 and have just started my urban farm blog this year as well as a new business.
    Hope it helps to hear my thoughts on the subject:)

    Linda

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    Katie @ Wildwood Creek
    April 18, 2012 at 11:53 am

    The negative comment is obviously from someone who doesn’t blog! Projects, blogging, photography, writing, etc. takes a tremendous amount of time. What difference does it make if a project is your own or you’re featuring some other person’s project? I think your blog is fabulous and full of interesting projects. Don’t waste another second feeling bad about this comment.

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    Western Warmth
    April 18, 2012 at 11:54 am

    I’m 34 and I think about what I am going to do when I grow up more than ever! I don’t know why. I sure have enjoyed and been inspired by you and your hubby’s journey to health. What you are doing is so powerful. And I’d never know about it if not for loving this blog first. Thanks for sharing your heart!

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    Centational Girl
    April 18, 2012 at 11:56 am

    Hey, please don’t stress my friend and please don’t cry! Never never ever let one comment like that derail you. It’s your life, your blog, your voice, and you’re bringing great ideas to others. Blogging is bound to bring critics, but you must stay the course! Brush it off, and keep being amazing girl!
    xo
    Kate

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    Sharon @ LilikoiJoy
    April 18, 2012 at 11:57 am

    I so relate to everything you wrote, it’s like you must be in my head about some of those same thoughts! I’ve been following your blog for about a year now, and I enjoy it even more today than I did when I first found it. You post new content almost daily, and I personally love that you highlight other projects, they are projects I would otherwise not see if you didn’t. I think it’s unrealistic to think you can do an original new project every day, or even every week, and then take the time to take the pics and write it all up – that is a ton of work. I think you’re amazing in the way you handle everything you do. Your blog is one of the best ones out there and I love your realism, wit, and honesty. It seems that you put 110% into everything you do, and if someone expects more, then that is their problem, not yours. Stay true to yourself and your family and how you want to do this. It has worked for you so far!

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    Mrs Mike
    April 18, 2012 at 12:00 pm

    Please don’t feel the need to apologize for what’s going on in your life!! I have a son with Aspergers. Some days he does really well, and I can blog to my hearts content. Sometimes we have bad month’s and I post next to nothing. It is what is. I think it’s great that you have guest bloggers that can offer new ideas. It’s always great to get new ideas and I love finding new blogs to read! I’m sure the person who left the email didn’t mean to be negative. She probably thought she was helping. Don’t let it get you down. 🙂

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    Shari @ Turnstyle Vogue
    April 18, 2012 at 12:28 pm

    You are human. I’ve been there many times over. As women, we have the inert sense of obligation to please everyone and we inherently fail to take compliments very well. That is why one negative can obliterate all the positives. Take today to be sad, angry and contemplate but then pull your boot straps up and go back to being the awesome person that you are. Awesome blogger that you are. You are already handling your most important role with great strength, a role that only a small percentage of people can truly relate to. Be proud of you, your blog and what you have to offer and after today, do not give the email another thought. It will most likely happen again at some point in your blogging career and you will probably have the same reaction. Your reaction is normal. Your response is key. Keep being real and keep being awesome. And keep sharing for goodness sake! Craziness I tell ya!!! 🙂 Sending positive thoughts…

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    Kaththee
    April 18, 2012 at 12:36 pm

    Once I wrote an article and it got published in a major newspaper above the fold in the front of a section which is a pretty big deal. I was so proud. I got an avalanche of hate mail from my piece which I knew was provocative when I wrote it. My piece got more hate mail than any other piece in the history of that paper according to my editor. My dental hygienist criticized it as she cleaned my teeth. I went to church and it was the subject of Sunday school class. It was brutal. Basically you are a writer now. Blogging is such a frivolous word for this genre. You are a story teller who happens to use photographs and the internet as well as words. You are a writer and writers get a lot of criticism in writing. It is part of the job. Words are so powerful. Most people don’t know how to use them effectively, but even an amateur (or a hack for that matter) can wound with them. After my piece was published, a worried friend sent me a lecture by Shirley Jackson printed in “‘Come Away with Me” about her ordeal after publishing, ”The Lottery” her masterpiece that got her 300 hate letters so devastatingly negative that she fell into a deep depression. Even her own mother said, “Dad and I did not care at all for your story in The New Yorker, it does seem, dear, that this gloomy kind of story is what all you young people think about these days. Why don’t you write something to cheer people up?” Can you imagine how much that hurt her? People canceled their subscriptions for “The New Yorker” and the story was even banned in some countries. Now her story is counted as an American classic and is required reading in most high school English classes. Also I found Stephan King’s book “On Writing- Memoirs of the Craft” amazingly funny and insightful dealing with this issue of negative mail and criticism in general.

    I wouldn’t say that the person who wrote the negative letter ”sucks” because she could be just as hurt or even more damaged by several letters criticizing her. Really all she asked for was more Kristi stuff and all most likely all she wanted was a connection to Kristi, whom she no doubt admires. If I could add amateur psychiatrist to my list of skills, I think she wanted a response. She feels connected to you and to your life through the stories you tell through pictures, words and details about your beautiful life. We know so much about you, it can feel like we know you. If there is one thing of which I am absolutely certain, if it had been a face to face conversation, then there would have been no hurt feelings at all. Ms. Letter Writer said,” Kristi I used to enjoy your blog, but lately all I see is other people’s work. ” Letter Writer seeing the pained expression on Kristi’s face and quickly adds, “I just love your work and I want to see more of it of course.” She paused and said, ” I don’t mean to be needy, It might sound silly to you but to me it feels like we are friends.”

    Anyway, I hope this helps you. I know you are struggling. You have a lot on your plate but it is a great blog. You have many admirers and support from your fans. I hope you continue to tell the story of your house and life. I would like very much to see that house finished, hear that your cholesterol dropped, and find out if you ever get that ruby red Italian chandelier. 🙂 Kathy

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    Nicole
    April 18, 2012 at 12:45 pm

    Please don’t let that one email get you down. I check your blog everyday to find inspiration! If you need more balance in your life than you should feel free to blog 3x a week or once a week, so you can enjoy creating, spending time with family, etc. You don’t need to justify, to anyone, why you share other bloggers stuff. There are so many out there that sharing is a wonderful way for us all to enjoy and create and be inspired.
    I can relate with the pity party, I am responsible for the customer experience for a major banks call center. It only takes one complaint to shine the spotlight on a bad experience. It’s a bummer, but I try to remember all the great experiences and chalk up the bad on as a lesson learned and move on. Ok, that’s my two cents ;). Your blog is awesome and so are you! Chin up.

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    Nicole
    April 18, 2012 at 12:49 pm

    Please don’t let that one email get you down. I check your blog everyday to find inspiration! If you need more balance in your life than you should feel free to blog 3x a week or once a week, so you can enjoy creating, spending time with family, etc. You don’t need to justify, to anyone, why you share other bloggers stuff. There are so many out there that sharing is a wonderful way for us all to enjoy and create and be inspired. Ok, that’s my two cents ;). Your blog is awesome and so are you! Chin up.

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    Leigh
    April 18, 2012 at 1:02 pm

    Hi Kristi,
    This person may not have worded their thoughts in the way that you would have preferred to hear them; but, consider this…
    They are not getting from other blogs what they enjoy getting from yours, and they still want it!
    I am amazed at what you can do and what you have done. I love seeing it everyday, I check in everyday and yours is the only blog I have saved in my favourites. Even when you don’t have a creation of your own to post, I appreciate that you took the time to find other beautiful things for me to look at. I have an amazing inspirational photo gallery thanks to you.
    You need to create a “compliment” file just for yourself. Anytime that you feel someone knocks you down a peg, go back and remind yourself why you are doing what you are meant to do.
    Also, if we could all predict what every person wants to see, there wouldn’t be any original ideas. Keep being yourself 🙂
    Have a great day!
    Leigh

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    Krissy
    April 18, 2012 at 1:58 pm

    I am 38 too and I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up! Here is a link to an article about handling criticism that I have found helpful in the past http://crazysexylife.com/2011/how-i-handle-criticism/
    Don’t let one person’s comments hold you back!

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    Emily
    April 18, 2012 at 2:14 pm

    I hope tomorrow (or even later today) is better! Keep doing what you love and follow your instinct. I love seeing the projects you put together (seriously, a beautiful mirror out of plastic spoons?!?), but I also love seeing other people’s projects. I would be sad if you sold your blog, but I hope you can do what is best for you and your husband.

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    Ashley
    April 18, 2012 at 2:20 pm

    I won’t offer any words of wisdom or advice on how to deal with the negatives, I will just virtually hug you. ((Hugs)) Stay strong…

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    Shasta Farrar
    April 18, 2012 at 2:28 pm

    I can’t believe someone said that about your blog. I’ve always admired everything you’ve done on your blog. In fact, my blog wants to be your blog when it grows up 🙂 Sharing and talking about other people’s projects and blogs is what I LIKE about your blog. I think it’s awesome and definitely unselfish. As far as those so called “perfect” bloggers with perfectly organized, happy, rich lives….they’re fake! Anyone’s “blog life” can appear to be perfect but most people relate more to REAL people (bloggers).

    I’m a mother/caregiver to a disabled child and my blog is my get-away. It’s for ME! I’m sure your blog is your sanctuary too. So don’t let anyone take that away from you. Like you said, your blog is your baby and only YOU knows what’s best for it.

    God bless you and keep up the good work,
    Shasta

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    The M's @ Craftsman 1204
    April 18, 2012 at 4:29 pm

    For what it’s worth, I read both of y’alls blogs. Your story is really inspiring. We bought a Champion juicer after reading about your experiences with juicing and we are on a much healthier path, thanks to you!

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    Jenny
    April 18, 2012 at 4:35 pm

    Do not for a minute feel guilty or responsible for this person’s selfish behavior. You are entitled to run YOUR blog as you want and that means morphing and changing to suit your needs. She should be ashamed to believe you owe her anything. Blogging may be public but it’s a personal expression. People forget this! I’m sorry she hurt your feelings.

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    Kayla @ Your Day Simplified
    April 18, 2012 at 5:48 pm

    So sorry someone took their crappy life out on you! That’s what I tell myself at least when strangers are rude to me….
    I like the idea of never really growing up and I always spend thinking about what I want to do later in life (the answer is never involving the job I have now). I think it’s more exciting that way so maybe think of it like at least you’re not tied down to the corporate world.
    I can’t imagine all the other stress you must be going through right now and don’t have any good ideas about how to grow your blog as I am in the same boat but I sincerely hope you get some light at the end of the tunnel very soon!

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    Monica
    April 18, 2012 at 5:50 pm

    I am new to exploring the world of craft/home diy blogs and have totally been sucked in. One of the things I love about your blog is that you have helped me to expand the blogs that I have been able to explore. I have had so many wonderful ideas and I always check your blog first thing. I know how long it takes to do a project and sometimes it is hard to start a new one knowing that so I don’t fault you for your efforts.

    Plus, the projects you ahve done yourself have been awesome…the helpful hints are great and you have a blog that has been set up wonderfully. Keep up the great work!

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    [email protected]
    April 18, 2012 at 6:16 pm

    I’m one of your every day readers but I rarely comment, but now I think it’s my turn to say something here…
    Check your daily pageviews Kristi…come on seriously check them out! See? So what if ONE blogger doesn’t enjoy your blog so much now? There are thousands of others who do! I know you’d like to have everyone satisfied, but that’s not possible, you do know that deep in your heart, don’t you? So don’t be so sensitive and stop growling for that ONE specific reader, instead keep showing to the rest of us, amazing projects and new bloggers to meet! In other words keep up the good work Kristi!

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    Marcia
    April 18, 2012 at 7:10 pm

    I hope whomever wrote negative thoughts and comments reads, regrets and apologizes. What did she think she could accomplish but sending negative vibes to someone who is willing sharing ideas and talents.

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    Jenny @ DIY Newlyweds
    April 18, 2012 at 7:23 pm

    Don’t let one person ruin your day. If someone goes out of their way to purposely send you a mean email, they are a very sad person, and probably very confused if they think you should change direction with your blog just for them. You have a great blog, don’t let one person get you down.

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    Dana Jordan
    April 18, 2012 at 7:23 pm

    Holy crap, Kristi. I love, love, love your blog, but I too know how you feel. You’ve got some great feedback on this post, so I won’t make this too long, but know you are not alone. I’m a crafter, diy-er, maker-of-beautiful-things and despite all the ideas that come oozing from the unknown, I still have days and weeks like this. I say this: give yourself a set amount of time to grieve this set-back. Then when that time passes, pick and move forward! We bloggers put ourselves out there daily or several times a week. We submit ourselves to exposure because we are passionate about our interests. Don’t lose that passion! Thank you for all you efforts and your time and the huge pieces of your heart that you leave on this page everyday.

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    Christine Leahy
    April 18, 2012 at 7:28 pm

    Kristi,

    I thought you might find some comfort in something I wrote called The Woman’s Creed. It was written as a kind of mantra for the women in my organization but I think it applies….You Are Enough!!!

    I Am Enough

    I am a woman and a warrior of faith.
    I serve the brokenhearted.

    I will always speak truth in love.
    I will never live in my past.
    I will never be the victim.
    I will never forget my purpose.
    I will never leave a wounded woman behind.

    I am beautiful, emotionally and spiritually tough.
    I always maintain my worth.
    I am passionate and powerful.

    I stand ready to forgive, love, and
    appreciate the person I am today.

    I am a guardian of hearts and
    a woman’s battle buddy through life.

    I Am Enough!

    “The Woman’s Creed”
    – Christine Leahy

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    Lori
    April 18, 2012 at 7:38 pm

    Hi Kristi! I never miss a post…I made sure by getting you via email, and I love your blog just as much now as I did when I first found you…even more! I am so with you on the “other” blogs that have it all together. I am not sure what the secret is, cause’ I am just a tini tiny baby blog, but we all have hopes, right? I work full time as a nurse…NIGHTS, and take care of my immediate family, plus my handicapped mom. My hubby helps me SO much, but it is a struggle to get a post out sometimes. I have never gotten a negative comment….yet, but I can not imagine why anyone would feel the need to leave a comment that was not uplifting. Bottom line….don’t let comparison steal your joy! You have an awesome blog, and you are extremely talented. I am inspired by you, and you are one of my BIG blogs….Cheers, Lori

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    Carol-Anne (Use The Good Dishes!)
    April 18, 2012 at 7:50 pm

    I have to agree….I’m with the rest of these people who’ve taken the time to write these comments. I’ve got to say, I’ve been thinking 2 things as I’ve noticed you’ve been featuring more projects from others lately: 1) This is a sign of real self-confidence that you are not afraid to show others work; and 2) I love getting ‘referrals’ for new blogs or projects from someone whom I trust (you!).

    I should have taken the time to tell you that before now, but at least you’ve heard it now.

    You’re an inspiration in more ways than one.

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    Martha
    April 18, 2012 at 7:52 pm

    I just found your blog a couple of months ago, I don’t remember how, and it has become my favorite blog, largely because of the diversity of your projects. And your tutorials are really outstanding. You continually amaze me with what you are able to accomplish and I applaud you for it, you’re a DIY rock star!!

    I’ve worked as a chef for about 25 years now, and no matter how many compliments I get, I used to get completely bummed by anything even slightly negative. I work as a private chef for a family now and I ASK them to give me feedback, especially negative so I know how to make it better. I don’t like hearing it, but I try to appreciate it as constructive criticism. I know that what I do for work is very personal to me, much more than a job, and I think you’re the same way. But I no longer take criticism so personally, and it did take me years to get to this point.

    Look at it this way, the reader obviously loves the projects that you do and wants more, probably more than one human can provide and have any kind of life, but it’s really a compliment to you. Try not to think of it as a slam, because I don’t think that was probably the intention, but take it as praise for all of the fabulous projects that you do for your fabulous blog!

    Enough from me, just try not to be so hard on yourself. And there’s nothing unusual about wondering what you want to do with your life at 38, you’re very normal in that respect 🙂

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    Bliss
    April 18, 2012 at 8:00 pm

    I can’t add anything wiser than your other friends have already commented. So, really that negative email says more about that person than you. And as far as the other stuff, being in a funk, so much to do, and wanting to do so much….. I’ll just say you’re not alone.

    ~Bliss~

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    AlycAlyce
    April 18, 2012 at 8:03 pm

    One bad apple does not spoil the whole barrel unless you allow it to sit there & rot. Takes all kids of people to make the world go around. I’m old enough to be your mom, raised 3 decent kids and we finally have an empty nest. My mom, bless her soul, would tell me often, honey, I’m never gonna live long enough to do all the things I want to get done & I thought that was C R A Z Y! Well, it’s the truth. Accept each day as a gift from God. I love your blog & may God continue to watch over you and your family.

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    Christine
    April 18, 2012 at 8:05 pm

    Kristi, I am going on 45 and still don’t know the direction I want to go. That’s what keeps life interesting. I subscribe to many blogs and I must say that there is something about you and your blog that is different then the rest and that I find very enoyable. I always look forward to your latest delivered to my inbox in the evening. Keep doing whatever it is that you are working on and I, and many others, will be interested and tuned in. You are so talented and so real and that really comes across and makes you so special! Keep up the great work!! You are an inspiration to so many!!

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    Jennifer
    April 18, 2012 at 8:09 pm

    GIRL;)) As my colorful friends say, the devil is a liar! Are you sure your reader was not trying to pay you a. complement? Anyway, I agree with commenter # 1, the blog is free. But you are, in my opinion, doing a fabulous job! …I am 34 & I would like to be you when I “grow up”;)~ Remember, God wants us content but never complacent:)

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    Bonnie
    April 18, 2012 at 8:09 pm

    I never wanted to miss a moment of your sunshine, so I made sure by signing up for emails. Please keep up the great work that you do.

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    Debbie
    April 18, 2012 at 8:20 pm

    I’m always enjoy reading your blog, whether it’s one of your projects, someone else’s projects(a great way for me to learn about other blogs) or something about healthy living (really interesting). You’re in charge of what goes on your blog. If you’re at a time when you can’t do tons of DIY, then don’t. We all go through seasons in life. I’ve been a grad student, worked, worked from home, stayed home with children, worked part time, saw my children grow up and leave home, and now I’m going back to school. Still haven’t really decided what I want to do when I grow up either – it changes as I change and grow and learn – but I really enjoy all that I’ve done! Put your feet up, enjoy sometime with your husband, and get as much sleep as you need. Nothing in life is good without enough sleep. It helps us to grow a thicker skin to deal with life.

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    Mamamarti
    April 18, 2012 at 8:20 pm

    Yes, tomorrow is a brand new day! Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and make it a Grand day! Thank the Lord every moment for your health and for giving you the strength, energy and enthusiasm to care for your husband. Look how far he has come! He couldn’t do that without you! 
    You are an awesome woman and just know that you can do all things thru Christ who strengthens you, Philipians 4:13. 

    When you feel conflicted pick up your Bible (if you don’t have one let me know I will be happy to send you one. I got my first one at 50 and I haven’t been able to put it down) open it up in the exact center of the bible. You will be in Psalms. Put your finger anywhere and read Gods promises and love for you. God loves you even and especially when you don’t feel loved. Try it.
    You’ll be glad you did. 

    You are awesome, not just as a blogger but as a wife and a woman. God smiles at you.

    Take care, been there till I found Christ
    Minerva

    Sent from my iPad

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    Amy [email protected]
    April 18, 2012 at 8:33 pm

    I have been reading your blog for a while now and LOVE all of your posts!! They are always very informative and so so helpful! I hope your day gets better and keep on keepin’ on!

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    Cheryl Thornton
    April 18, 2012 at 8:35 pm

    Kristi…

    I am not a blogger (yet) but I have really been thinking about starting one of my own…I have only been following your blog for a short time (a week or so) but in that time I have learned so much from you – your blog is one of the most organized and I enjoy that you include projects from other bloggers…it allows me to find a new blog that I may not have found for myself…for me its kind of like you are personally introducing me to your friends…I am always amazed each day when I received email notification of your latest post…the time you spend on your blog must be all consuming sometimes…and now that I know that you do this on top of cooking whole foods for your husband and family – you are like a super-hero to me…I am 46 and I still don’t know where my life is going – after spending the last 22 years home raising and nurturing my family – I thought a blog might be something that I could do to fill some of my free time…I share the view of most of the commentors today – THIS BLOG IS YOURS – DON’T BOW TO THE NAY-SAYERS – continue on the path you are on…remember you can’t please everyone – and for the person who left you those negative thoughts – IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!

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    Carrie
    April 18, 2012 at 8:35 pm

    I think that you blog is GREAT. I am a full time working mother and find it relaxing to read your blog and look at your projects after a long day. I find inspiration from seeing the cool things that people do and I often try a few things on my own. I envy those who blog and desire to become a blogger myself, someday! Don’t get down, keep the faith!

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    [email protected]
    April 18, 2012 at 9:01 pm

    Kristi, I haven’t followed your blog long, but I always enjoy it. I might not go through the links…but I do enjoy seeing your picks or highlights from the link ups. I don’t have time to go through it all, so I think that it’s great how you feature a few….and they are usually pretty good. And…Oh. My. Goodness. I am soooo impressed with your projects. You are such a can-do gal. And inspiring one too!!!! Seriously, there is a limit to what one person can accomplish in a day….and I think you are amazing.
    On a spiritual side. Don’t allow the enemy to get a foothold in your thinking with one negative comment. And keep in mind it wasn’t all negative…she likes YOUR work. I’m not a Joyce Meyer fan…but I went through “Battlefields of the Mind” with a friend and there is some good stuff there. She may or may not be your style…but truth is truth…and often we need to be reminded of it. And read Philippians. Good stuff there that helps me get my focus where it needs to be. And remember, you are a beautiful, talented, child of a heavenly father who loves you with an everlasting love. {hugs}

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    Ann
    April 18, 2012 at 9:03 pm

    I follow your blog and love it. Have enjoyed your site for all the great ideas and instructions. Sorry you are so down about the negative email but just remember tomorrow is another day and it will be better. I check back often and love being able to visit other blogs through you. God Bless.

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    Deborah Newton-Hair
    April 18, 2012 at 9:05 pm

    Try thinking about it this way: that this person was trying to tell you how much he/she looks forward to YOUR creations but his/her writing skills suck!
    I know that I enjoy YOUR creations and look forward to each new email. Keep your chin up and spirits high and I will be a bit more thankful for your emails.

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    Susan
    April 18, 2012 at 9:21 pm

    Dear Kristi~ I have just recently subscribed to your blog and am thoroughly enjoying it. You’re doing a great job!

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    debbiedoos
    April 18, 2012 at 9:26 pm

    Some people just SUCK! Plain and simple. Huh..I make piddly beans and work my butt off on my little ole blog. First off…this reader/commenter has no clue what a service you do by featuring others work and ideas here. You are doing others a favor. I have seen a few of your fabulous projects in the past few weeks and am blown a way at your talent. We all can’t produce fabulous works every day. However, we want to share on our blogs the talents of others. I don’t get it with people. If you don’t have something nice to say…ZIP it! They just want to break your spirit…and SURELY you are NOT going to let that happen. I am waiting for my day to come with a mean comment…I am sure I will cry, and it will ruin my day. I am however, the type of person who gets very motivated by mean spirits, and LIKE to show them a thing of two! You just dust this off, and carry on, do what you are doing..it’s working for you!!~ XO

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    Dana Moore
    April 18, 2012 at 9:59 pm

    Dearest Kristi – Blogging is a family and you are suppose to feature other bloggers. I have learned so much this way. I’m 63 years of age and have learned a thing or two, about people – this person has issues, or he/she would never have made a negative comment, about something that is as near and dear to your heart, as your blog. This is bad manners, to say the least! This sounds like a moody – immature woman. Put on your thick skin and let negative comments roll off your sweet back. Besides, you have to much work to do – we love you and look forward to ALL your posts. Come on now, you’ are a tough cookie! I don’t know many people, who would attempt, all you do in a day much less accomplish them. Please never change anything about your blog.

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    Kelley
    April 18, 2012 at 11:11 pm

    Dear Kristi,
    Your blog is wonderful. Don’t let one person out of hundreds make you doubt yourself. You’re VERY talented and deserve a huge pat on the back for all of the amazing projects and ideas that you have shared with us.
    I think you need some time for yourself to just sleep and regroup. You’ll see things clearer if you step away from it for just a while. Don’t give up! You are truly gifted.
    PS That negative person needs to create her own blog if she’s so good at criticing them.

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    Tracy
    April 18, 2012 at 11:27 pm

    Hello A2D. I am a relatively new follower of your blog and a newly
    out-of-work-dyi-gal-wanting-to-make-it-on-my-own. I have been refurbishing
    lovely old furniture and anticipating the day when I will sell
    this wonderful stuff to others who appreciate the love we put into
    recreating it. I wanted to offer my understanding for where you are today
    but also remind you that it’s just today. I have read your blogs with
    anticipation and found inspiration in every post. You are talented,
    inspiring and someone I respect a lot. Please choose to wake up tomorrow, and start again. I need your inspiration to light my own.

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    Sue
    April 18, 2012 at 11:54 pm

    Don’t let the comment get you down Kristi. I love the content where you show your own DIY projects as they are always innovative and exciting (I’m still in awe of that airconditioner cover) but I’m proud you found a way to post consistently with weekly link-up parties and then highlighting a few neat projects. You also have published the most informative blogging help. There are not enough hours in a day to do a project, let alone blog about it daily. Bloggers are content providers, writers, editors, stylists, photographers. web developers, marketing departments, etc. etc. And we should her some slack as well as she was just expressing that she wants to only read a certain type of content. If she doesn’t want to continue on the journey as you develop your blog that’s her choice. What she was saying was that your own projects are inspiring (they are) so take it as a complement rather than a criticism and let her go on her way. We readers love to check in daily and see new content as DIY and decorating blogs fill the big hole left by the demise of so many decorating magazines. Realize the most successful DIY bloggers out there, the Petersiks of Young House Love, are two people working more than full time and they feature others projects, giveaways and recaps of their months to fill their daily posting quotas. You are headed down an honored and successful path. Keep evolving and put sleep, eating writing and taking care of yourself and your husband ahead of anything else.

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    Tumaini Rivera
    April 18, 2012 at 11:57 pm

    Hi A2D!
    I am 37. I will be 38 in December and I’m still trying to figure out what I want. My challenge is the same as yours – I want to do EVERYTHING, and guess what?? I will do everything especially after reading REFUSE TO CHOOSE by Barbara Sher. For those of us who are interested in so many things and want to pursue them all, we’ve been taught that we need to focus on one thing, make it into a career, and be happy. BUT, what if you pursue something just for the sake of learning it, dreaming about it, talking about it? What if you gave yourself permission to think and do everything you wanted? Girrl, I’m telling you to read this book if you haven’t already.
    About the blogger who said they wanted to see more of YOUR projects – – I don’t think that’s a bad thing. She wants MORE OF YOU. You’re awesome, your projects are awesome, your blog is awesome!
    Tumaini (from Flippin’ Factory)

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    Karah @ thespacebetweenblog
    April 18, 2012 at 11:57 pm

    Wow! What a heartless comment from someone who clearly doesn’t understand. Just know that your blog, and all of the inspiration it brings, from your own projects…and the ones you share of others…is a wonderful place for us to visit. Be true to your heart and your blog content and hopefully contentment will follow…I have to believe anyway. 🙂
    Karah

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    [email protected]
    April 19, 2012 at 12:24 am

    With the good comes the bad. Focus on your most recent popular post and how many great comments, pins and inspiration you got from it and throw that one opinion to the way side. In the big picture it is minor. You just need to sit down and figure out how to make more money from you blog, you deserve more that is for sure! I like being able to see more of other people’s stuff on your blog, saves me time and gives me more inspiration. But I still do love your projects, but I am ok with you sharing other peoples greatness. You’ll figure this out and get through it, I have the utter most confidence in you.

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    Jenny Ballard
    April 19, 2012 at 5:02 am

    I understand how hurt you feel with this persons negativity. She may be a jerk or a person who thinks she has the right to say what ever she thinks but remember this, …….she is probably one of the many…many….yep thousands of people who have no understanding of how hard you work every day to be you and do your thing. They can’t understand what it takes to be with your spouse, who you love so much and care for, 24/7. They don’t know the amount of time it takes to just stop and listen to him so he knows your paying attention,…. to stop what you’re doing to explain what it is your doing,….. how much you’d like to skip lunch, to get on with the project, but you can’t because you need to feed someone else. They don’t see how so many little things can take up so much time that it’s a battle to still follow your own dreams and goals.
    Sounds to me as if you’re doing a great job and you and Matt have a good thing going on. Keep it up.

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      Judy
      April 19, 2012 at 5:50 am

      Hi,
      I’m so sorry you’re having such a rough week. Please don’t concentrate on one person that’s such a downer! I love your blog, in fact, this is the first time I’ve ever posted anything! Why? Because I’m a lurker! I don’t feel I have anything to offer because I’m intimated by all of your great inspirations!!!!! I LOVE seeing all of the idea’s from you and those you publish from other bloggers!!! PLEASE, know that you have many, many supporters here…I can tell…just look at all of these wonderful posts! 🙂 Please hang in there…you’re doing a wonderful job. I, myself have learned soooo many great things from you. The best part of my morning is sitting here with my cup of coffee….just reading YOU!

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    Carol
    April 19, 2012 at 6:28 am

    Kristi, first, you are describing how I feel about my blog. I do it because I love it. I, however, make no money at it. But, oh well. We have to keep doing what we love to it. Second, I just discovered your blog yesterday and I love it. In fact, I was amazed by your blog. It obviously takes a great deal of time and effort. And I’m not crafty, at all. Seriously. However, I looked at a couple of your projects yesterday and thought “I could actually do that.” My house is barely decorated and there’s plenty of work to be done. I had nowhere to start until I found you. “There’s 7 billion people are this earth, and you’re going to let 1 ruin your day?” That’s what I repeat to myself over and over and over….well, you get the idea. Carol

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    [email protected]
    April 19, 2012 at 6:31 am

    I read somewhere (I think on pinterest…lol) that people are mean/rude/hateful when one of these situations apply: 1) They hate their life/situation so they want to bring others down with them 2) They are jealous of you or your life. Try not to take rudeness to heart…I know it is easier said than done…but I think you do a great job with your blog and anyone with half a brain can figure out that projects are time consuming and expensive, so you can’t be expected to spill out new ones several times a week. Hang in there girl!

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    Deauna
    April 19, 2012 at 7:04 am

    I just signed up for your blog so think of it this way: one lost, one gained. I love your projects and am inspired to finish decorating my house.

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    peg
    April 19, 2012 at 7:08 am

    I’m 54 and still have days like you described. I have a job that requires me to make decisions that rarely please everyone I serve. It is tough to hear that people are unhappy with something I have planned. I’m a pleaser by nature and have to come to realize I can’t please everyone all the time. I try and keep my focus on the One I need to be pleasing. I see my job as a calling and I want to do it for the Glory of God….I’m not saying I’m always successful but I would encourage you to continue to do what you love, are good at and generally brings you joy…….and hopefully it too can be to the Glory of God as you use the gifts He has blessed you with…..I will be praying for you as God brings you to mind…..by the way I enjoy your blog and many others, but rarely comment! I find them relaxing and inspirational….Keep up the good work!

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    Debs
    April 19, 2012 at 7:55 am

    I wish i could give you a big hug Kristi….in the time i’ve been commenting on your blog (which i’ve been reading for a lot longer) i have felt more confident to try out diy projects and more open about my own abilities….there are few blogs that i read regularly that really make me think ‘i can do it’ and if i cant i know where i can learn to….i couldn’t be without your hard work now. i for one appreciate all the effort you put into your blog…i love to learn who you are, what makes you tic, i love your own wisdom you share and the part of you that shines through. i think you are just lovely, talented and caring.
    I cant help but think this other person who emailed you doesn’t know what goes into a blog, especially a successful one like yours….maybe they didn’t intend for you to be hurt, maybe they thought their honest opinion was more of what they were expecting as a reader? I hope you find peace with it soon….i wish my blog was just a fraction as successful as yours….but it isn’t and thats fine really….but i do ‘get’ that it doesn’t change how we feel when something goes wrong.
    Hang in there chica….you are doing a great job and there are many more of us that love and admire you for all that you are! 🙂

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    Barbara @ DIY Home Staging Tips
    April 19, 2012 at 8:46 am

    Kristi – As soon as I began reading your “confession” I knew you’d be getting a ton of fan mail. But I still had to add my own comments.

    I admire you and your blog very much, and I hate to think that one unthinking person could sidetrack you from the wonderful work you do. Honestly, I cannot think of another design blogger who is more creative, more professional, more helpful and supportive, more personable, and who is willing to be honest about her life.

    As others have mentioned, the person whose comment sent you in a tailspin was handing you a compliment. She just phrased it poorly. If you read any of the advice that successful bloggers write about being a successful blogger, you know that 1. Negative comments are part of the territory, and 2. Making good money exclusively from a blog is very difficult.

    As for showcasing other creative minds, I like the idea of you – the pro – handpicking projects you think deserve our attention.

    Keep up all the fine work you do, and know that we will love you just as much if you give a little less to us and a little more to your husband, your diet, your sleep.

    I’ll be 70 in a couple of months, and still figuring out what I want to be. It’s all a process, not a destination.

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    Julie @ redheadcandecorate.com
    April 19, 2012 at 9:19 am

    Dear Kristi,

    I am very sorry you are going through this! I am very new to blogging, and actually your blog is the second blog I came across while exploring where to post my before and after pictures. When I saw it, I was completely impressed with knowledge, skills, talent, all of it! You are incredible. To be able to do it while caring for your husband as well makes you better than all of us. I hope that you learn to brush off comments that really mean nothing. Possibly this person just likes you so much that she meant what she wrote in a different light. If not…delete it and feel good about moving on. Life is too short to waste one second on what someone wrote. The first day I posted my kitchen to your link party (which was my first) my heart was racing, I was filled with excitement, joy, inspiration, and fulfillment. That is what this blogging community is about. Don’t let anyone take that away! XO

    ~Julie
    redheadcandecorate.com

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    Keather Leslie
    April 19, 2012 at 9:59 am

    I felt compelled to write you a short note after reading this. I recently started following your blog & LOVE IT! Just the fact that you take the time to do it on a daily basis amazes me – but then to also learn of some of the things you have going on in your personal life – wow, I admire you even more!!! Just keep doing what you’re doing sweetie, you can’t please everybody, & I think you’re fabulous! Looking forward to whatever you have in store for tomorrow.

    Big Fan,
    Keather

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    Kara
    April 19, 2012 at 10:21 am

    Please don’t let the opinion of one person bring you down. I have learned that the people who hurt you aren’t worth your time or trouble because if they cared, they wouldn’t have hurt you in the first place. The internet is this big place where people can toss out words and opinions without ever caring a bit that there is a real person with real feelings on the receiving end. I think you deserve a big pat on the back for doing what you do. You are clearly devoted to the things and people you love and you have a passion for sharing your skills and talent with those of us who aren’t quite as talented 🙂 You’re a creative inspiration, for sure, but having read about your personal life makes you an inspiration on a more personal level. Keep doing what you’re doing….no one can please everyone 100% of the time. Love your blog and all that you do!

    Kara

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    Vanessa
    April 19, 2012 at 11:25 am

    Hi, Kristi

    You are an awesome blogger and I have learned so much from you. I love how you feature other bloggers and I appreciate all the DIY projects, tips and everything else in between. Ever now and then you will get someone who just don’t have anything good to say, but if you have 50 comments that are positive and 1 negative comment, that speak volumes! I appreciate all the hard work you put into your blog, keep pressing on.

    Vanessa

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    Annie
    April 19, 2012 at 12:45 pm

    Read you nlog and must tell you that I have great respect for you with whats going on in your life.

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    Bj
    April 19, 2012 at 1:07 pm

    We love you and after reading all the comments left for you … you have been given alot of good advice. You are never going to be able to be everything to everyone, nor should you try. You think about all the love from the rest of us and you put aside the “ONE” that does not like your path. Hugs and hugs coming your way.
    Bj

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    Virginie
    April 19, 2012 at 1:35 pm

    Hey, I’m from Belgium and really like your blog and also wanted to say a few things (sorry for my bad english)!

    You know, I don’t mind if it’s not always your ideas that you post. It’s about al the things you love and want to share. And we should be happy that you do all that work for us! Because we just have to open our computer and read!

    But I can understand how you feel, so just let it aaaaaallllllll out!!! ;-p take a really big breath and go on doing the things YOU like! And you know what? If it’s not your blog?! So be it!!! You will be missed, that’s a fact! But it’s YOUR LIFE!!!!!! Big hug xxxx

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    Virginie
    April 19, 2012 at 1:45 pm

    Hey, I’m from Belgium and really like your blog and also wanted to say a few things (sorry for my bad english)!

    You know, I don’t mind if it’s not always your ideas that you post. It’s about al the things you love and want to share. And we should be happy that you do all that work for us! Because we just have to open our computer and read!

    But I can understand how you feel, so just let it aaaaaallllllll out!!! ;-p take a really big breath and go on doing the things YOU like! And you know what? If it’s not your blog?! So be it!!! You will be missed, that’s a fact! But it’s YOUR LIFE!!!!!! Big hug xxxx

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    Virginia
    April 19, 2012 at 1:45 pm

    Kristi,
    Just wanted to let you know, I read your blog all the time and it’s one of my favorites. I’m kinda quiet and never commented much because up until I started my own blog in January, I didn’t realize how important it is to share with the blogger how much you enjoy their work! It’s a habit I am slowly breaking! 🙂 Not only are your own creations amazing, but the way you feature other’s work is so genuine and thoughtful and I love that you share other’s work. Take me for example, a frequent reader who loves your blog who pops in one day and sees my own work highlighted on your blog in once of the sweetest ways I’ve seen it done! I think you have created something truly special, and you should pat yourself on the back. Sometimes we just need a little day or two off to relax and refocus. 🙂
    hugs,
    Virginia

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    JaySpice
    April 19, 2012 at 2:00 pm

    I just wanted to say this. I don’t think the person’s email was negative at all. And it really burn my bosom when people call others out on being “negative” with negative comments!

    The person could have just stopped coming to your blog completely but loved it so much that she sent you an email telling you why she wants to stop. This is called constructive criticism. I say this because it’s exactly how I felt about your blog. But unlike her, I wasn’t going to send you an email telling you why I stopped coming to your blog….I was just going to un-bookmark you. I’m not saying you can’t feel upset at her comment though. In the end we are human.

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      Kristi
      April 19, 2012 at 3:11 pm

      For the record, I didn’t say anything negative about that person. This post was about ME. About my response, and how I internalize certain things and how it affects me. And I freely admitted that it was unreasonable and irrational…not in those words, but the meaning is clear.

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    [email protected]
    April 19, 2012 at 4:06 pm

    Hi! So sorry you are having a rough time. I was reading this in my reader and wanted to jump over and just give you my 2cents…for whatever it’s worth. I’m pretty new to this blogging thing but it didn’t take me long to realize that this “online world” gives everyone the ability to say, insinuate, portray sarcasm and write whatever they want…with little regard to the person on the other. I guarantee, most people who write these comments would never say these things face to face and if they did, they would be fired from their job and/or have no friends in real life. I had one person say something that really sent me to a bad spot for a couple minutes and I told myself, “hey, in real life, this probably never would have happened. If it did, I would have addressed it immediately. Unfortunately, b/c putting things in writing on the internet is never a really good idea (if it’s negative) it doesn’t allow a venue to “say your piece.” Does this make any sense!? I realized that I don’t owe any reader or anyone else for that matter an explanation . I cannot please everyone. Just like in “real life” 🙂 Geez, what a ramble that was!!!! Hope you got a little something out of it 🙂

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    Sue
    April 19, 2012 at 5:27 pm

    Please don’t pay any attention to that person, or anyone else who sends you negativity. I’m new to your blog and I’m LOVING it! Your ideas are fresh and fun. Your guests seem to have great material and I love the sharing on Fridays. It’s always great to see what others are doing with decorating and crafts. When life is tough, every little bit of negativity seems to overwhelm. Please take care of YOU and look for the bits of happiness and positivity in your life and from your readers. Thanks for what you do.

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    Tina
    April 19, 2012 at 6:27 pm

    I love to read blogs and subscribe to several of them. I see blogs as a creative outlet for the talented people who take the time to create them. Do I expect one everyday from everyone? Heck no! Is there a rule about how many posts should be done a week? I dont think so. The great think about blogs is that you can create your own rules and content.
    Create a little, create alot, I am still going to love the diversity.
    Don’t let one little comment get you down, it’s your space to do what you want.
    Keep creating!

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    aCommonersCastle
    April 19, 2012 at 8:29 pm

    Kristi-
    I am so sad to read this post. I want to give that commenter a little piece of my mind as far as saying what they did. You are such an inspiration to me as a blogger, and as a wife, and it really just makes me angry to hear about it. I’m sure there will come a day when I will get the same kind of comment, and I am quite sure that I will want to curl up in the corner and cry, but it makes me even angrier to think about you feeling that way. You work so hard, and write an A-MA-ZING blog! Keep up the good work, and don’t let the negative nancy’s get you down.
    lots of love
    -lauren

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    Lynne
    April 20, 2012 at 7:00 am

    Kristi, I understand your feelings exactly! I am 48 and my last child is graduating from high school and my job as stay at home mom will be over! I have NO idea what I am supposed to do now! It freaks me out! I guess that is all part of the journey of life, you know, to keep learning and evolving! I also understand your feelings about the negative comment some idiot left you. I get fixated on every seemingly negative word people say to me. I analyze and over analyze, and keep picking at it until I am crying. Words have such powerful ways with our brains! That’s why I try very very hard to always give everyone the benefit of doubt when they are nasty or rude to me. You, well you are AMAZING! You have a full plate and yet always remain upbeat and positive. I love your blog, your ideas, your creativity, but I also understand that everyone needs a break to let their brain rest! Just keep doing what you want and your followers will continue to follow!

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    [email protected]/
    April 20, 2012 at 8:13 am

    I really like your blog mate, keep up the good work, it’s not easy, some just make it look that way. Don’t forget that you don’t know what goes on behind the scenes in their homes, they may have more help or more time to do things, and they probably throw great Pity Parties. lol

    I’ve just started my own blog and am finding out pretty fast that it’s not as easy at it looks…so I’ve been looking at yours and feeling the way you do when you look at others, we’re all the same.

    Sending my love and best wishes from Australia. Jayne xx

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    julie cluff
    April 20, 2012 at 8:25 am

    Thanks for articulating your struggles. I’ve had some of the same experiences and it helped to hear that I’m not alone.
    Love your blog! Julie

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    Angie @ Beneath the Magnolias
    April 20, 2012 at 9:43 am

    Kristi, these words came to me when I read your post.

    “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

    Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5-6

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    KristenK
    April 20, 2012 at 9:48 am

    ha – I find YOU to be one of the bloggers I look and think “how does she have allllll that creativity? not fair!” and have to remind myself not to get a little jealous 🙂 (well maybe a little, because it keeps me inspired)

    xoxo
    KristenK

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    Tanya from Dans le Townhouse
    April 20, 2012 at 4:37 pm

    I’m so glad you shared this. I feel the same way. I have felt so good about my blog’s growth, my projects (I’ve been doing more DIY’s than I would without the blog), and all the lovely feedback I have been getting. And then I shared some tips I learned from a real estate agent and some reader took that as an opportunity to tell me she hates my kitchen and implied my house won’t sell because of it. OUCH. I don’t even know if she knew how unkind she was. It made me want to stop blogging. It is a much tougher game than I thought when I started out . . .

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    Karen
    April 20, 2012 at 10:05 pm

    I think you just reached into the pscyhes and minds of so many of your readers and fellow bloggers. I am so late in reading this blog, but better late than never. Hopefully you are feeling better now. It is so hard to put our selves out there each time we post for public scrutiny from often complete strangers. I have said this many times, I would LOVE to see a book about the psychology of creative bloggers. Why do we do it? How do we do it? And why do we (almost always) love it, even when we hate it and feel tethered to it like a ball and chain.

    I truly believe that people who post negative comments to the author about his or her work is just one unhappy person, and clearly has never tried to run a blog of this size and have a normal life on top of it. Hang in there, I think you are doing an amazing job. And I love seeing work from other people as well as your own amazing DIY projects.

    I hope your weekend is restful and beautiful. Take care, -K

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    Vanessa Dawne
    April 21, 2012 at 2:41 pm

    Hi Kristi, I agree with almost all of these comments — this is YOUR site so do what YOU want & need so YOU are healthy & happy.

    Would it help to know that there are lots of us little bloggers out there who are totally envious of the large amount of comments you do get? And most of them are very positive. And I’m sure I hear a hint of awe in some of them.

    Life happens. We all have different time constraints — I barely post once per week, never mind almost daily like you. You have wonderful, unique ideas but, of course, need time to complete them — you are simply opening up our world by highlighting other projects while not leaving us hanging [like I do].

    So, you might have lost one [I betcha she’ll still check you out once in awhile] but I’m sure you’ve gained many others because of your latest features — plus you are sending traffic to other sites whom I’m sure are very thankful to you. File that nasty email away & read a bunch of positive ones from people who care.

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    Julia
    April 24, 2012 at 12:22 pm

    So I’m a few days late commenting, & maybe you’ll never even notice it (b/w being late & the HUGE outpouring of supportive comments you have!). You described your post as a pity party. I read a post that was heart-wrenchingly honest. That’s pretty brave. Most people have trouble being honest with themselves and here you shared it with the world. Strength doesn’t mean you’re smiling & upbeat & confident every second…. it means you keep going even when you’re discouraged, frustrated, and just plain down-in-the-dumps. And it sounds like life has given you a couple opportunities to be strong. Hang in there!

    (You want a little irony? I read your post on the same day that I registered a domain name & began the process of setting up my own little blog! You certainly expressed a few of my fears and then some…lol!)

    Take care of yourself.

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    Beth
    April 25, 2012 at 7:41 pm

    I know you have gotten all types of advice. It is so good to focus on the advice that makes you feel like going on the creative, uncritical advice. Toss the other one out with the trash. Some people are so critical that the only type of advice they can offer is criticism. That person and her advice is not worth the time it takes to dwell on it.
    Don’t allow her expectations exceed your delight in the Lord. Keep up the good work.

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    Leah in Iowa
    April 27, 2012 at 12:32 pm

    I’ve been a closet follower of yours for awhile, and just recently added your blog to my Google Reader. I love what you do, and just wanted to stop by and say so. Keep on doing what you do because you do it so well!!

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    Gwyneth Evans
    July 22, 2013 at 5:33 pm

    Something I have to repeatedly remind myself of, and it helps: you can’t please EVERYONE! (Also, this is one email out of goodness knows how many readers–and you can even read her message as flattery–she loves your projects and cares more about what YOU’RE doing than others! She probably is wishing along with you that you had more time to work on fabulous creations) <3

    -Gwyn

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