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For My Fellow Slobs, Pack Rats & Procrastinators…

Y’all, this has been the absolute best start to a new year that I’ve had in many years! I know some of you are wondering when the fun projects are going to start, and I promise that they’re coming. I plan to start in the guest bedroom with building the closets. Then I’ll move on to repairing and refinishing the flooring in the guest bedroom, hallway, and home gym. Then I’ll turn my attention back to the guest bedroom and get that finished up so that Matt and I can move into that room, which will give us our breakfast room back.

But for now, I’m doing life-changing stuff, y’all! And I say that half joking, but also half serious.

Last Friday, I wrote a post about my “word of the year.” You can click that link to read about it, or just get the CliffsNotes version here. My word is C.O.P., which stands for cleaning, organizing, and purging.

I hit “publish” on that post, and was fully determined to get started immediately on that goal. But as I always do when a task or project overwhelms me, I procrastinated. I don’t think I got anything done that day in any category of cleaning, organizing, or purging.

But I did do one significant thing that day. I purchased and started listening to an audio book that several of you recommended to me — Decluttering at the Speed of Life: Winning Your Never-Ending Battle with Stuff by Dana K. White.

Y’all, this book has been life-changing for me!!!

And there’s nothing really deep about it. It’s really quite simple and straightforward, but it’s just what I needed. Fellow slobs, pack rats, and procrastinators, this book is for you!!

I’ve read other books, blogs, and articles about cleaning and organizing. I’ve watched a few episodes of Marie Kondo on Netflix. None of that resonated with me. I’m not sure why the others didn’t resonate with me, but I know for sure why Marie Kondo didn’t. She is cute, adorable, cheerful, and kind. She seems like the kind of person who would be fun to chat with over a cup of coffee. But she’s not the person to help me with my clutter and pack rat issues for several reasons.

  1. She doesn’t come across to me as a person who has ever had a clutter problem in her entire life. And because of that, I don’t think she can relate to a person who thinks like I do. Our brains work and process information differently. We see clutter differently. We see “stuff” differently. We see time management differently. I need someone who thinks like me to help me.
  2. I will never determine what needs to stay and what needs to go based on what “sparks joy” in my life. We got our property tax statement in the mail, and I can assure you that doesn’t “spark joy” in my life. The plates, cups, bowls, and flatware in my kitchen don’t “spark joy” but we use it every day. My Instant Pot, pots, pans, and skillets don’t “spark joy” for me at all, because I hate cooking, but I need that in my life. (Yes, I’m joking. I know she doesn’t actually suggest to throw out bills and dinnerware that is being used.) But the point is that I simply don’t associate joy with material items. I can’t think of a single thing on my house that brings me joy. The “spark joy” thing in relation to material possessions just doesn’t resonate with me.
  3. I will never, ever, ever in my life thank an inanimate object for its service to me. I’m thankful for my house, but I’m not thankful to my house. Thanking inanimate objects for their service to me simply doesn’t resonate with me in the least.
  4. On her show, I see Marie going into people’s homes and pulling EVERYTHING out of closets and piling them onto the bed. When you declutter and organize in that way, that means you have to finish that job 100% at that moment or you’ll be living with even more clutter until its finished. What if something comes up and you have to leave half way through the project and can’t get back to it for two days (or a week, or a month)? I can tell you exactly what happens with a person like myself. Every bit of that clothing that was pulled out of the closet and left on the bed will be pushed off of the bed and onto the floor when it’s time to go to bed. So that creates an even bigger mess than what I started with.
  5. I don’t see Marie really pushing back and asking the hard questions of pack rats. If a person has an entire room filled from floor to ceiling with Christmas decorations, and Marie asks, “Do you really need this much”? and the person says,”Yes, I need all of it,” she doesn’t push back. A person with a pack rat mentality will always say they need all if it, when clearly they don’t. So she helps them “tidy” their stuff into neatly labeled boxes rather than GETTING RID OF IT. When pack rats say they need ALL of the stuff, they need someone to push back (gently), not take their word for it and help them organize all of their stuff into boxes that will get piled into the corner of the room or the garage.

Anyway, I don’t mean to pick on Marie Kondo at all. Again, I think she seems like a perfectly lovely person, and I’m thrilled that she’s helping so many people deal with their clutter. I just use her as an example because these days, her name is recognized by pretty much everyone. And obviously her methods resonate with many people. I’m just not on of them.

But I found my person — Dana K. White. Why did she resonate with me so much? Because she’s a fellow slob and pack rat!! When she speaks about the emotional side of being a pack rat, and how it affects day-to-day life, that resonates with me. I can totally relate. When she talks about how she became a slob and a pack rat, she’s speaking my language. Her brain works just like mine.

So when she explains how a person like me (like her…like us) can actually deal with the clutter and mess, I get excited. I get excited and encouraged that a person just like me, who thinks just like me, has actually dealt with the problem (and explains that it will be an ongoing battle, but will get easier to deal with after the initial purge is done), and has come out the other side victorious.

That resonates with me. That excites me. That encourages me.

So after listening to about half of the audio book on Friday night, I got up Saturday morning with a different perspective, and like a totally different person. I put my earbuds in and listened to the rest of the audio book while I started cleaning and purging. I worked all day Saturday until 10:30pm, and only stopped because Matt was ready to go to bed. I was so excited and energized that I could have worked through the night. On Sunday, I did the same thing, working until 11:00pm. On Monday, I repeated that. My mom came over and helped me with one project that day, and after she left, I worked until 10:30pm again. Yesterday, I worked until 10:00pm.

The more I do, the more I want to do. The more I do, the more my house and my mind feel completely different, and that feeling is addictive.

Anyway, I know that some of you said that you wanted to join me on my C.O.P. journey this year, so I wanted to suggest this book. You can click here to find it on Amazon

I feel like this is an audio book that I’ll listen to several times until these things become habit for me. For now, I need her constant motivation in my ears to stay excited about this process. But at the same time, my clean house is becoming a motivation on its own.

So for my fellow slobs, pack rats, and procrastinators, I encourage you to see if Dana’s message and plan of action resonate with you also. And for the foreseeable future, I’ll be doing a weekly update (probably on Saturday) on how my C.O.P. journey is going. If you’d like to join me, then please do so! You can check in on Saturdays and let us know how your C.O.P. journey is going as well!

I’m so unbelievably excited about this year. We’re only eight days in, and I already feel like a new person.



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    Jelena Rountree
    January 8, 2020 at 10:36 am

    Yay! So glad you found her; it’s so interesting to see 2 of my favourite blogs intersecting haha. Can’t wait for the updates!

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    CathyR
    January 8, 2020 at 10:55 am

    Now if only she’d pen an exercise book!
    I had to laugh because I’ve used “pack rat” for decades, and now they make nests in my back yard!! And here I thought they existed only in human form.
    I’m getting the book forthwith.

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    El
    January 8, 2020 at 11:24 am

    Awesome! I wonder how this book would resonate with an 11 year old. We got started and cleaned out her play area and room and she really got into it towards the end. We did use the pile method because it all mixed up and we needed to get it put into correct spaces, but that is all that we followed of Kondo as I as an organized person doesn’t do the other pieces and I can’t see my daughter follow that either. However we budgeted days for the clean-up and I could leave the mess. We are now moving on to other areas of hers so we can get those fixed too. She really liked it and started more purging towards the end than she did to start with. The pile method worked there as she after sorting she again went through the piles and found things she originally sorted to keep that she then was ready to get rid of. But she certainly fits the pack rat part along with her dad which I could never make read the book or listen to it, but if at least I can set the kid up for success later it would be nice.

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      Tess
      January 8, 2020 at 9:24 pm

      One of Dana’s books, podcasts, or video’s has a section on how to encourage kids to “Declutter”. (I don’t remember which one it’s in, but I’m thinking it’s in one of, if not both of her books) You can also look on he blog: A Slob Comes Clean

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    Em
    January 8, 2020 at 11:25 am

    OH. MY. GOODNESS!!! I am going to HAVE to check this out. The only time I was ever “excited to clean” was when I was gifted some cloths that seem to really work like magic. I kept cleaning because it was giving me results.

    I have the bug, so this is timely!!! THANK you!

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    Pam Huseman
    January 8, 2020 at 11:26 am

    I’m so glad you found someone that resonates for you. I am a PO (professional organizer) and I tell my potential clients that it’s okay if I’m not their cup of tea. I have a network of colleagues that I can refer them to and we’ll find the right fit for them. I also don’t care for Marie Kondo’s method and agree that she doesn’t give enough push back to people that really need it. It can be uncomfortable to do, but needs to be done sometimes in order to exact a change in thinking and behavior. Good luck on your decluttering journey. You’ll be amazed how much more productive you will be! You’ve got this girl!

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      Lou Clifton
      January 9, 2020 at 5:58 am

      Your excitement and post has helped me. I need to do the same thing. During the last 5 years everytime I think life is going to calm down something else has happened that has Left me defeated. I thank you for this post it has gave me the encouragement to try and start once again…And then if I could get on the weight loss journey .

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    Tenney
    January 8, 2020 at 11:41 am

    I love her, too! I am working my way forward from her beginning, which she suggests if you are too cheap to buy the book! But it’s OK, because she sends me emails and links older columns that help. I have made a goal to get rid of 2,020 items in 2020. It’s not as bad as it sounds, just 5-6 per day, and have already made a good start purging glassware – have tons, pretty much never use them. Dana seems like someone who thinks like me, and ends up with the same piles! But if she can do, hopefully I can make some inroads, too. Take care – Happy New Year!

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    Andrea
    January 8, 2020 at 11:46 am

    LOL This is awesome. I was like… Why does that name sound familiar? Oh yeah, I found her years back via her blog…”A slob comes clean”. Her blog was a huge help. As for Marie Kondo- I thought there was something wrong with me, when I read her book, and it just wasn’t what I needed. I’m just thinking- nah… her book is not meant for hardcore clutter slobs.

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    Linda H
    January 8, 2020 at 11:58 am

    I had to laugh out loud at your description of Marie Kondo’s method. Last year after New Year my family ALL watched all of her shows on Netflix and we were all inspired. We dumped EVERYTHING from 4 closets on to the guestroom bed, the living room sofa, the tub in the master bath, and the kid’s bathtub. That took a couple of days. As we began the sorting and discarding, the stuff somehow migrated to every room in the house. I quit counting black trash bags after 20. It looked like a tornado had blown through, Including the kitchen – didn’t have time to cook or keep it tidy for all the tidying of clothes. Then came the call from out of state relatives that they would arrive the next day for a visit. What can you do? We filled both cars with the donation bags and threw everything else back into the closets! It took months to get everything hung back up, sorted to its proper owner and back to where we started. Now I think twice before contemplating COP! Maybe I need to check out your book recommendation.

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      Angela
      January 8, 2020 at 1:47 pm

      THANK YOU! I NEED THIS BOOK! I’m right there with you on Marie. She clearly has NEVER had a problem accumulating stuff and there is a reason behind why each of us do it, and sometimes it is not even close to being the same reason. Throw in having kids and it really explodes. I’ve already decided that 2020 is my year to get rid of more stuff, so this will jump start it. I already donate stuff to thrift stores, but I’m going all in this year.

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    Christine Czarnecki
    January 8, 2020 at 11:59 am

    I am, without question, a pack rat, but even a sentimental holder-on can get something out of Marie Kondo.

    I now use her method of folding for my husband’s underwear and t-shirt, my underwear, and for my dishtowel and apron drawer. It allows you to fold each one and store it vertically, so that you can see all that you have and choose the one you want., plus store more in the same space. These spaces now function so very well, and so much better than folding flat and stacking one on top of another.

    Try it with a small set of something and see if it works for you.

    That said, I will check out your book suggestion. There are still a whole lot of things that I do not want to KonMari!

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      Christina Leach
      January 8, 2020 at 12:27 pm

      This is basically what I got from Kondo’s book, as well. I enjoyed the book, as it was easy to read, but it was really a case of taking what worked for me and mixing with other “works for me” techniques. Her method DID get me through my closet/clothing, though, so I feel like it was worth it just for that. I did do the purge in segmented sections though — tshirts, dress clothes, etc.

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      Tamara
      January 9, 2020 at 12:59 am

      I agree! I’ve never gotten through the book….but I’ve been using the folding method for four years. I like that you can see everything at once, and I can rotate the clean items to the back of the drawer so the same shirts/underwear aren’t used over and over again. I’ve even organized the T-shirts’ by colour! Plus, you can store at least 25% more using this folding method. I’ve never been able to keep drawers tidy, and this worked for me even after four years!

      I also couldn’t dump everything, sort, purge and put it away. That would create stress!! But I went through the drawers once drawer at a time and that was reasonable.

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    Crystal
    January 8, 2020 at 12:54 pm

    I don’t have any trouble purging clothes or stuff from the kitchen. My problem is I’m a fiber artist and have tools, sewing/embroidery machines (24 at last count!) that are necessary. I do recycle cardboard, plastics and aluminum. That means I only have to haul a small garbage can to the street about every 2 weeks. There are only 2 people in my life I would trust to help me sort my tools and fabrics because some tools are quite specific and I could not replace. Fortunately I have a 2400 sq ft studio but it only has a trail thru it. I’m a recent widow and spent the last 4 yrs caring for my husband so much of my issues involve “deferred maintenance” AKA the place is falling down around me! I have ordered the CD from Amazon and look forward to listening to it. Thanks Kristi!

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    Michele
    January 8, 2020 at 1:04 pm

    OMG this blog post was exactly what I needed! Thank you Kristi! I thought I was a bit odd not feeling that Marie Kondo thing at all. Your words resonated, however. All my life I have swung struggled with keeping things! I came by it honestly. My parents kept EVERYTHING! Raised in the Depression, of course. Those values got implanted in my brain. I found the Dana K. White audiobook on Scribd, and I am starting it today. Here’s to better living!

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    Cherie
    January 8, 2020 at 1:22 pm

    I gotta call it when I see it because I’m so tired of people misinterpreting Konmari to mean that you need to throw out things like leases and daily utensils just because you gain no joy out of them. Of course she’s not telling you to do that. Tools do their own part by helping you in your daily life and despite not getting any feelings about them, you still NEED them. Sorry just the amount of people that had been flipping their lids about that when her show came out (who didn’t even desire to clean their house – her method is for the people who WANT to do her method), belittling her for daring to suggest they can only have 30 or less books (which wasn’t even what she said, that was her personal amount), and so on. Just a little disappointed to see one of those statements coming from a blogger I love hearing from.

    Best of luck with your decluttering, if you’re not finished yet! I’m glad you found a method that works for you personally 🙂

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      Kristi
      January 8, 2020 at 1:57 pm

      Of course I know she’s not suggesting to throw away bills that don’t spark joy. I was trying to use humor and hyperbole to make a point, and that point is that her method simply doesn’t resonate with me. I can’t think of a single possession I have that sparks joy. I have things I like, but joy isn’t something I associate in any way with material objects.

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        anon
        January 8, 2020 at 6:18 pm

        It’s odd that you make a public list of ways you don’t resonate with her method when you don’t even know what her method is. Fine if you haven’t read her books and don’t want to, but as the above commenter mentioned, you’re adding to the misinformation about Marie.

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          Kristi
          January 8, 2020 at 6:30 pm

          I haven’t read her books, but I have watched her show. Are you saying that she doesn’t use her own method on her show? If that’s the case, then let me be clear. The method she uses on her show doesn’t resonate with me.

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          Kristi
          January 8, 2020 at 6:44 pm

          And let me boil down my five points:

          1. She doesn’t seem like a person who has ever had a clutter problem, and it seems to me like her brain works very differently from mine. I can’t relate.

          2. I don’t associate “joy” with material possessions, and therefore her “spark joy” thing simply doesn’t resonate with me.

          3. I won’t thank inanimate objects for their service to me. Ever.

          4. I don’t think her method of pulling everything out and piling it on the bed works for people like me. Dana has a much better method for dealing with purging, again, for people like me.

          5. In my opinion, I don’t think Marie pushes back enough (again, from what I’ve seen on her show) against pack rats who insist they need to keep everything.

          All of this is what I’ve seen on her show. These are my opinions. The only area where I may be factually incorrect is #1 where I stated that she doesn’t seem like a person who has ever had a clutter problem. I could very well be incorrect in that statement, and be “adding to misinformation about Marie.” The rest of it is my opinion about the effectiveness of her method (again, from her TV show) for me personally. There’s no misinformation in my opinion about the effectiveness for me since I’m the only one who can speak about the effectiveness of her method (as shown on her TV show) for me.

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      DAF
      January 8, 2020 at 4:02 pm

      I got that Kristi was going for humor. I think one issue is how each of us interprets the word “joy” and part of that could be that Marie is coming from Japanese and it may have different shadings than the English. I think the Konmari method is useful because it helps us actually meditate on our things and one thing she emphasizes is visualizing how we want our future to be and if the object should continue on with us into the future. I found that type of thinking very useful to me and it helped me refine the concept of joy for me. It helped me let go of things that had been given me as gifts or as hand-me-downs or as heirlooms. Once I thought about how I envisioned me in the future I could easily figure out whether or not to keep the object. I do get a bit bugged by how some have misinterpreted Konmari as well. I actually love that she doesn’t do the work for people. She teaches the principles and lets them decide whether or not to keep something. She clearly communicates that you should keep what you value, not what she values (like books) and doesn’t judge the people she works with. That is so refreshing. If you want to keep a room full of precious moments figurines then she is down with that. Your stuff, your life.

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        Sabrina
        January 11, 2020 at 11:33 pm

        I agree totally. KonMari in a modified way worked for me, too. I know some Japanese, but I can’t say which word she used. I’d have to see the original phrase. I can say that “thanking the item” is rooted in Shintoism where it’s believed everything has a spirit force, but one can thank God instead for His provision, which is how I modified it.

        I do like her idea of seeing things as your servants, and having the freedom to keep things that make you feel “joy” and freely letting me go when they don’t.

        I did get Dana’s book from the library and I like her “only fit what fits in the container” and picking your favorites and letting go the rest. So yes, I’ll try that, but folding my shirts and scarves in KonMari spirals, (but not my socks!)

        Dana’s 2 questions are good too-
        Where would I put this
        And where would I look for this if I needed it.

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    Terry
    January 8, 2020 at 1:44 pm

    OMG! Your point 3 made me LOL!

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    Sherry
    January 8, 2020 at 2:01 pm

    I do not have a television, so I do not watch Marie Kondo.

    I moved into my very small, apartment sized house with barely
    any closet space. I had to figure out what to keep and what to
    get rid of due to having so little storage available.

    What helped me was just putting everything on the living
    room floor, and sorting like items with like. That way you
    can immediately see what you have too much of. It is
    tedious and time consuming, but it is what worked for
    me. Sort keep, donate, sell and toss.

    I found that if you try to do this sorting method every
    3 months or so, you can really teach yourself how to
    organize better.

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    Jessica
    January 8, 2020 at 2:14 pm

    What you described (about yourself) is me 100%. Thank you, I feel like I NEED this book in my life because I am needing to declutter about 99% of my house and every time I make a to do list to get it done I end up procrastinating and only doing half the job and, like you said, I’ve made a bigger mess and spread it throughout an even bigger area and then I just leave it for days (or weeks or months). Then, I almost feel like I get depressed about it and then I feel overwhelmed and then the vicious cycle continues. I will definitely check this book out. Thanks!!

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    Stephanie
    January 8, 2020 at 2:19 pm

    I love Dana too! And if you want more of her, her podcast is definitely worth listening to. For anyone struggling with paper, especially to-do or in-progress papers, I’d suggest the Sunday Basket from Lisa Woodruff at Organize 365. She also has a great podcast all about organizing.

    These 2 women have changed how I view my house & my stuff!!!

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    Julie
    January 8, 2020 at 2:38 pm

    Bring it Kristi!!!!!!
    I was a pack rat of some things but not too bad. It then got so much harder to dispose of family things once my parents passed and the family home was sold, AND my kids became adults. TWO things helped me sooooo much: 1: take digital images, then toss or donate. 2: repurpose or update.
    EX: I have great photos of my adult kids holding their baby clothes and youthful art/school projects. AND. I painted parent’s mismatched chairs and my dining table cadet blue, refinished the top. Couldn’t wrap my head around using before, NOW LOVE them. Turning old handmade lace and doilies of grandma’s into Christmas things (stockings, tree skirts, ornaments) and other more modern interpretation yet vintage things. Old lace things work nice with coarse textures like burlap. ANYWAYS….. I found if I still had the object image to stir the memories I felt better about releasing. I still need to make progress but these 2 things have helped so much. It was amusing too, my brothers just about croaked when they heard about the furniture painting but my daughter and I have reinvented 2 dining sets and 1 bedroom set with a combination of paint and refinishing (Howard Products). They are gorgeous and fun now, they were sold. Happy C O P!

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    Joan Hornung
    January 8, 2020 at 2:42 pm

    Congratulations Kristi – this will set you free! (I already ordered the book for me, and my daughter!) 😂

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    LindaK
    January 8, 2020 at 3:05 pm

    I just ordered the book from inter-library loan! I’m looking forward to reading a book for folks like us!
    Like you I have a lot of stuff that wouldn’t spark joy if I set it on fire, but it is necessary and I must keep it and find a place for it. That said, I also have a lot of stuff, particularly for projects I might do one day, that I could and should get rid of. But because I have a large enough house that I can put it away and not see it, it remains. Just because we have space doesn’t mean it needs to be full!

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      Carol Harris
      January 9, 2020 at 12:31 pm

      Yes! “Just because we have space doesn’t mean it needs to be full!”

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    HeatherB
    January 8, 2020 at 3:38 pm

    So awesome, Kristi! That is my FAVORITE organizing book, and I’m an organizing book junkie! Not so much an organizing junkie, but I love reading about it! LOL I’m glad you are seeing progress. I started reading her blog from the beginning last year, and it was so interesting to really see her go along and learn S L O W L Y the lessons, and to see (kind of ) real time where she started to where she is now is just so cool. There is definitely hope! Excited to see pics of your progress 🙂

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    Heather Gillett
    January 8, 2020 at 3:41 pm

    Thanks for the inspiration Kristi! I ordered the book and signed up for the newsletter! exactly the kick start I need as well!

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    DAF
    January 8, 2020 at 3:51 pm

    I’ll have to check this out. I watched Marie Kondo last January (with everyone else) and modified her approach. Now my bedroom and master bath are easy to clean and say neat, no problems. I get what you are saying about piles, but I just did that one room and it worked really well and was easy to manage and complete. I do like that she doesn’t judge or push people. So many organizers see your stuff and think junk and want you to get rid of it, but that isn’t their job. I found that the more I did the more I was willing to let go of and not regret it. I didn’t thank each thing verbally but I did a little mental thanks and made sure to pass my stuff on to people I know first and then took it to Goodwill (I’m sure some of it went to a landfill but that’s out of my hands once I drop it off). I’m the one that posted that I had a bunch of furniture, like you, and I just got up one Saturday, put it out in the front yard, took one pic of all of it and then posted to LetGo and Craigslist and got it all sold in a day. I worked nearby in the garage and most buyers were just driving by. I had been making the task way more complicated than it needed to be, which is the usual for me. Got my house cleared of extra furniture, made some cash, and cleaned my garage.

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    Mari
    January 8, 2020 at 4:26 pm

    Oh wow Kristi… I’m one of the ones who recommended her and now you’ve reinspired me to actually buy her book, I’ve been listening randomly to her podcasts but haven’t made the progress you have! Thanks Kristi and please keep updating for us fellow (deep breath) slobs 😉

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    KathieB
    January 8, 2020 at 4:55 pm

    So happy you found this book! I binge listened to it right before I read your last post and thought it might resonate with you.

    For others who want to read or listen to it, I found the audio book for free through my library system.

    I had already been purging stuff for about a year, but her process is much better than mine and will be a big improvement. 2020 is going to be the year I finally clear out and dispose of the accumulation of 20 years being able to say… “Ihave that big, beautiful, empty barn… I can store it there!”

    Step back friends, and watch me actually do it!

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    Julie B.
    January 8, 2020 at 6:34 pm

    I read and thought Kondo’s book was very valuable.

    “Sparking joy” can be thought in a different way — instead of going through your possessions looking for items to discard, you look for items to keep. For instance, her method would have you gather all your socks from all your different hiding places, pull out the ones you want to keep, and get rid of the rest. Then you store them in drawer folded so they are in one layer. This allows you to easily see what you have and remove one pair without messing up everything else.

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      Tenney
      January 9, 2020 at 3:34 pm

      I totally agree that “sparking joy” from inanimate objects does not resonate with me, however, the opposite is very true – when the inanimate object elicits discomfort or unpleasantness, why keep it? And this can range from the lovely blouse you really wanted, but it gaps between the buttons, to purple curtains that just don’t feel right in the living room. And of course, we are all different as to how much that matters to each of us, but the point is to get rid of the rest, as Julie said.

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    Patricia
    January 8, 2020 at 7:34 pm

    I loved this post. I decided your C.O.P was a good idea, and I would modify it a little for me and call it C.R.O.P. I have so many things to REPAIR that I had to add it to the list- from small things that have to be glued, silver tea set to be taken to a silversmith , things to paint and things just put back in working order.
    I don’t mind so much asking something if it gives me Joy, but it would be a nightmare if I put every book in this big house in a big pile and had to sort it from there ! Yikes !

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    hayley
    January 10, 2020 at 2:42 pm

    So glad you took the recommendation in the spirit it was intended; I always hesitate to recommend a “slob” blog / book to people, lol.

    Dana has changed my life. All it took was her instruction “take it there NOW” and suddenly decluttering never results in a bigger mess! So simple but so life-altering.

    I also love the audiobook. She’s a great narrator. Do you know she has a weekly podcast too? If you start at the beginning you’ll have hours of motivation to see you through. And that cover house-keeping and cleaning stuff as well, whereas this audio book is just about decluttering. If you want a compact audiobook, her first book, “how to manage your home without losing your mind” is great too.

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    Jennifer P Spradley
    January 12, 2020 at 1:17 pm

    Oh My Lanta! This book finally has helped me make the all important shift away from appearing on an episode of Hoarders, just in the nick of time. Just this morning, I took a whole car trunk of stuff to the Goodwill, making me feel virtuous, relieved, and industrious. The writer is not passing judgment on those of us who collect things because we will need them … someday. She does, however, persuasively explain how to change your mindset about the stuff clogging up your home. Love this book! Thank you for finding it for us!

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    designdreamer
    January 15, 2020 at 11:01 pm

    O.M.G.!!
    I have so many things in common with you Kristi!!!!
    I’m (hoping to) get this book ASAP!!!
    First it was Keto! and in all honesty, my dd was probably the first instigator on that front. She got married last March, and she and her now hubby started Keto a few months before I did (Sept 24, 2018 – YES although I don’t generally remember dates very well, I DO remember THAT date, LOL!) It has worked very well for me, and like you, I have a sweet tooth, and am able to do pretty good abstaining with a keto diet – other diets, I’m generally ALWAYS hungry. I’ve veered off the past month – older dd hasn’t helped as she and her family moved in while their house is being remodeled. Love having them – especially the granddaughters, but it doesn’t help that 4yo granddaughter loves to help grandma make banana bread!! Memories are important too! But hopefully I’ll get back on track soon – when their house is done?
    Anyway, I need to de-clutter also and downsize. Should have done it last year, but hopefully this is the year. Hoping this book will do the trick! And although I skimmed Marie Kondo’s book, it didn’t really resonate with me either, so since we seem to think similarly this one may be for me also. Thank you!

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